Nurturing 

Nurturing others is a great power, but doing so at the expense of our own wellbeing is contrary to self-love. For those of us who struggle to put ourselves above others, this concept might even resemble selfishness.

We must come first and everyone and everything else second. However, having self-love as our primary intention does not require us to come first every time. In certain situations, we may choose to nurture others ahead of ourselves.

By nurturing ourselves, we choose what fits best for us. Every situation is different and has its own set of challenges.

I am writing in this manner because selfless individuals find nurturing everyone else easier than nurturing themselves. Therefore, to come into this new fashion of living I hope to show that we can have the best of both worlds.

Selfish people only consider nurturing themselves and want everyone else to do likewise. Unselfish people nurture everyone and neglect to nurture themselves. It is an opposite lifestyle choice.

Nurturing ourselves is a healthy and necessary endeavor. In the end, we are responsible for our lives and how we deal with what comes our way. To nurture means we take care of who we are. As a consequence, we can more easily take care of everyone else.

Self-love is self-nurturing. Whether we refrain from a big night out with the girls because we know sleep is more important, or decide not to cook dinner but buy takeaway because we are tired, it comes under the self-nurturing umbrella.

Self-nurturing is not selfishness. When we are selfish, others are always affected and our intentions have a negative effect on them.

Self-nurturing is a skill we possess, and it serves to nourish us. It is a gift to ourselves and ultimately, a gift for those involved with us. A well-nurtured individual does not seek much from people, as they are self-sufficient in self-love.